Saturday, October 18, 2008

I'd just love to be a guy, I hate all this girl shit!

Sexuality has always been a difficult thing for me. I became aware of an attraction for girls when I was in junior high.  At first I truly believed I was a lesbian.  Then I realized that I still liked guys too.  In high school I found that I could turn my sexuality on and off like a switch.  One day I could walk in and be attracted to girls. The next day I could walk in and like guys.  It was something I was very much in control of.

Though it may sound a little crazy to you, I was also not very attracted to either gender at all.  Sure, I can "imagine" being with somebody, but when it actually comes to wanting to do the deed in real life, that's a whole other story.  The idea of being in a relationship with a guy or girl does not really do a whole lot for me.  (I'm in my 20s) The thought of being somebody's girlfriend seems kind of "wrong" and annoying for me.  I'm not very girly.  And the female role more or less gets on my nerves.

I'm attracted to guys on more of a physical (in fantasy alone, remember) level.  I don't really like their personalities or them as people.  While other girls look at them and find them so adorable, I can't help thinking how shallow and dumb they can be.  And I DO NOT like the way they treat girls.  Who wants to be the vagina that "helped a guy get laid?"  It's SUCH a turn off.

I like girls on more of an emotional level.  But I can't really say I'd ever want to date one.  I just don't think it's really for me.

You could say that I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.  I like guys on a physical level.  I just don't care for them as people.  And I like girls more as people.  But I wouldn't really want to go steady with one.

Sometimes I'd just love to be a guy.

I hate all this girl shit.



by Anonymous

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10 Myths And Lies About Virgins

I would first like to state that I am in my twenties and still a virgin.  It seems to be that there is a lot of discussion about the 

hardships of being a sexually active woman and the ways in which society cruelly labels such women.  (Slut, tra

mp, etc.)  But I would also like to share a perspective from the "oppos

ite" side of the spectrum.  When you're a virgin, people also assume certain t

hings about you as well.  If anything, I've noticed people play this game of "Is she

 REALLY a virgin?"  Once they find out about my lack of 

sexual history.  I have to very careful of what I say or do lest some one whisper 

behind my back that I'm really a slut lying about being a virgin.  (I find other women can be very cruel when it com

es to doing this.)

I would like to point out a lot of the myths and some blatant LIES 

about being a virgin.  Partly so that other people will 

understand that virgins are not sexless hermits who live in caves and poun

d their clothes on a rock.   But also because I'm sick of having to watch every

thing I say or do for fear of being accused of not being a virgin.

Niyigena-Chris-13Chris Niyigena,young virgin

MYTHS AND LIES ABOUT 

VIRGINS


  1. Virgins do not have strong sex drives.  Otherwise they wouldn't be virgins.
  2. Virgins do not act overtly sexual towards men.  It's just not a virgin like way to be.  (Virgins should be shy around the opposite sex.)
  3. Virgins know very little about sex.  If they talk about sex a lot or seem to "know" a lot of facts about sex, then they're most likely lying about the whole virgin thing.  (Please! As if a virgin can't read a book and the only way to know about sex is to put a penis in your vagina.)
  4. All virgins are looking to give their virginity to their true love, i.e. husband. (Virginity means different things to everybody.  One girl might want to give her virginity to her true love.  Another might want to enjoy a brief fling with her best friend.  (Male or female.)
  5. If a girl hasn't had sex by a certain age, chances are it's because she's ugly.  (Believe it or not, I've actually had a guy tell me this before.)
  6. If a girl hasn't had sex with a guy by a certain age, chances are it's because she's actually a lesbian.  (I've had this accusation flung my way.  It seems that if you are not sleeping with one gender, people start to assume you're doing the other one.)
  7. Virgins DRESS like virgins.  Which, in most people's books, seems to include a head to toeQuaker get up complete with built in chastity belt.
  8. All virgins are deeply religious.  Not an insulting presumption, but you have to understand a girl could be a virgin for any number of reasons. Not solely religious ones.
  9. Virgins dislike talking about or hearing about sex.  The whole thing makes them jittery. (If you believe this, I also have some prime real estate in the Everglades you might like to buy.)
  10. Virgins have a highly romantic view of sex.  I think this myth goes a long with the idea that virgins are these "pure" individuals waiting to be swept off their feet and made love to on a bed of rose pedals..With a wedding ring on our finger..Behind a white picket fence.

The truth is that virgins CAN be lusty, sexually informed, flirty, and enjoys the attentions of a man just like any other woman.

And cut out the "Is she Really a virgin game?" game.  You're getting on US virgins nerves.

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Queen Sized Vagina


I should start out by saying I've always had what you might call a "queen sized vagina."  It was never really a problem for me.  At least, not when it came to sexual pleasure.  It did, however, pose a problem for the men I slept with.  One partner even complaining that "having sex with me was like using a trash bag."  Other men were not so obvious.  But it was still obvious my size posed a problem for them.  For years I hated myself for the way my body was built.

Than I met Trisha.

I had just moved back to America from my home in London.  It was certainly a period of upheaval in my life.  Trisha worked at my new office in L.A.  When I first met her I felt a spark.  And I was certain she felt the same way.  Though I had always considered myself a heterosexual woman, when I was around Trisha I wasn't so sure anymore.

We went out to dinner together several times before we ever kissed.  It was a very sweet, chaste sort of kiss.  And she didn't pressure me to have sex the way a man might.  Our first time was very special.  I had never been with anyone who knew how to touch me the way I needed to be touched.  Who cared so much about what I wanted.  And who cuddled and whispered to me afterwards the way she did.

I have been with around three women since Trisha and I broke up.   And none of them has cared one smidgen about how large my vagina is.  Or even if I've gained a few pounds.  It just doesn't seem to be as important to lesbians as it is to men. And I don't feel the same amount of pressure to be perfect around other females as I did with men.  I feel more sexually free and content with my body than I ever have before.  Much more free to be myself.

ANONYMOUS,45



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The Sin Of Bieng Fat

Fat Girl
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My name is Alice. I'm 5'4 and 150 pounds. Nobody's idea of skinny. But I use to be around 220 pounds. I don't believe most people could ever understand, unless they've been obese themselves, what it does to a persons sex and sexuality.

I remember back in high school, feeling like a pig, watching all the guys chase after the thin girls. Meanwhile I couldn't have gotten hit on by guys if I was naked and covered in hundred dollar bills. If I was asked out it was usually, okay almost always, followed by a large round of laughter as the guy enjoyed his "little joke" with his cronies. During senior year I started to have deep feelings for a guy for the first time...Only to discover he was only being nice to me to win a bet. I was crushed.

I didn't feel like a real girl sexually. I felt like a pale imitation of one. Just something there for everybody's amusement. I feared that, if a guy ever did have sex with me I'd be so repulsive to him he wouldn't even be able to keep it up. Or that he do the whole thing half heartedly because he wasn't really aroused. I hated myself. I hated men. And I hated the thin girls who could have them when I couldn't. We live in a world that worships the thin woman. A world where people don't even want to look you in the eyes if your fat. In the eyes of the thin nation, you've committed the ultimate sin. The sin of being fat.

I wish I could say I feel better about myself since losing the weight. But, sadly, I do not. Changing the body doesn't really change the mind. You can lose all the weight you want. But you won't lose the memory of being fat. After everything that's happened, I've developed an intense fear of men. I'm scared of them. They were so cold and so fast to reject me before. I'm afraid of it again.. The last time I was in the video store and saw an attractive man I walked to the opposite side of the room just to avoid him.

You can take the fat out of the fat girl. But you can't take the girl out of the "fat girl."

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Female Ejaculation

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Believe it or not, the female orgasm and female ejaculation (also known as "squirting") were unknown until relatively recently. Back in the 1800s, if a woman was feeling horny, her husband would take her to the doctor so that he (yes, all doctors were men in those days) could treat what was in those days diagnosed as "hysterical tension". Symptoms of this "condition" included irritability, a temperature and swollen pudenda. And guess how the doctors treated their female patients with this condition? They prescribed masturbation! But the poor lady was not allowed to do this herself (this was deemed to be unhealthy and would rot the mind!). Usually stimulation of the woman's genitals to orgasm was performed by either a midwife at the doctor's surgery or sometimes by the doctor himself. The husband and wife would then return back to their 19th century domestic bliss, that is, until the wife got horny again.

Towards the close of the 1800s, the advent of the industrial revolution meant that the "modern doctor" would deliver the prescribed genital stimulation using a steam driven vibrator. In fact all manner of weird and wonderful contraptions were used by doctors to bring about a female orgasm - or as it was known in those days - "the relief of tension in the female". The female orgasm was simply not recognized in those days. Up until well into the 20th century, many scientists claimed that the female was incapable of enjoying an orgasm at all! Over time however, clitoral orgasm came to be recognized as the engine-room of the female orgasm.

During the 1940s, when Dr Alfred Kinsey published his research into the "art of marriage", a Dr Grafenberg's earlier research into the female orgasm came under scrutiny. Dr Grafenberg had identified a small mass of erectile tissue around the female urethra, similar to tissue in the penis, as a source of female pleasure and orgasm. Grafenberg said that this tissue became enlarged during sex and "swelled out greatly at orgasm."

Research into the Grafenberg area, or "g-spot" as it has come to be known, languished until the 1970s when researchers started correlating stimulation of the g-spot with a resultant different type of orgasm - the vaginal orgasm. g-spot orgasms are typically accompanied with vaginal and uterine contractions, whereas clitoral orgasms tend to be accompanied by only vaginal contractions. Sometimes, the g-spot orgasm was accompanied by the expulsion of fluid at the point of orgasm - female ejaculation. In all cases, the researchers said that women who experienced a g-spot orgasm described it as very powerful and much more protracted than a clitoral orgasm whether it was accompanied by female ejaculation or not.

The g-spot is located about three or four inches inside the vagina on the front side of the vagina. Imagine lying on your back with your partner inserting their fingers inside your vagina and pressing them towards your navel. They should find your g-spot just above the patch of rough tissue inside the vagina. It's thimble sized and should start to swell as it's massaged. It needs firm pressure, as it's sometimes hard to find. If you're having trouble finding your g-spot, consider trying a g-spot massager. They can produce very intense g-spot sensations. Some women report that stimulation of the g-spot is often also accompanied by strong feelings of a need to urinate. This usually disappears quickly and feelings of pleasure should replace it with continued massaging. You'll know when you find it. Experiment with how best to stimulate your g-spot but remember that firm pressure is required. G-spot toys can help in many instances and a few educational DVDs are available although most video material tends more toward ejaculatory erotica.

Serious study into female ejaculation has only occured recently. Some ancient cultures depicted what seems to be female ejaculation in their artworks, but despite some historical evidence documenting female ejaculation in the past, medicine has in the main attributed the expulsion of fluids by females to "poor bladder control" or "urinary incontinence". Others thought that the expulsion of fluid was the result of excess vaginal secretions. Research in the last few decades has shown both these suggestions to be incorrect and that in fact nearly half of all women can experience ejaculation either through self stimulation or sexual activity with a partner.

To the women that ejaculated, it was all a mystery. Whilst female ejaculation was generally thought to occur at the time of orgasm, it can in fact occur in the lead up to orgasm as well. In fact, female ejaculation can occur at any time during sexual arousal.

Whilst female ejaculation is the common expression, ejaculation is perhaps the wrong word for it. Whilst some women report a "gushing" or "squirting", others say the liquid is expelled with little force, in fact some called it a "dribble". Amounts can vary; anything from a few drops to a cupful can be the result. Tales of "gushing female orgasms" are probably a little off the mark but there is no doubt that some women ejaculate both copiously and with great force.

When female ejaculation occurs, the consensus is that it comes from the urethra and not the vagina. As we learnt previously, the g-spot surrounds the urethra and is composed of tissue very similar to the male prostate gland. Researchers say it is this paraurethral tissue that produces the ejaculate. Consequently, the description of the g-spot as the female prostate is probably not that far off the truth!

The ejaculate itself is surprisingly similar to male ejaculatory fluid. It is this fluid in men that carries the sperm and together make up the male ejaculate - semen. There is some agreement on the make up of female ejaculate. A liquid very simlilar to male prostate fluid is certainly in evidence in female ejaculate but there is often a significant quantity of other fluid - either from the bladder or urethra as well. It seems that both the quantity of ejaculate differs between women as does the make-up of the ejaculate.




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Raped by a Dream

First off I would like to say that what I'm about to write is NOT something I made up.  It is quite quite true.  All of it.   Even though I feel crazy writing it.

When I was around 14 years old I began to have these awful nightmares of an invisible being that would visit me in my sleep.  It would crouch on my chest and crush my body down.  As I got older (16 or so) the attacks or "experiences" became more sexual in nature.  I'm not saying I always disliked them.  But sometimes they can be scary.  There are times when I've awakened to find claw marks on my chest or back.  Now, I could imagine perhaps scratching my chest in my sleep.  But the back thing has left me somewhat puzzled.  My vaginal area, back or breast has also been sore on occasion after a "visit."

In real life there have been odd "thumping" sounds inside the house for no apparent reason.  And on one occasion the electricity in the living room went out for an entire week.  My mother shut off the electrical line to the living room...At which point the lights started the click on by themselves, even though there was no power in the line!  I've also awakened to see my bedroom door closing.  On one occasion my blankets had been pulled off of me as well.

I remember asking my "little dream lover" what it was. It then proceeded to tell me that it was a MAHR.  Curious, I decided to look the word mahr up on line to see if there actually was such a being.  To my shock and surprise, there was.  It seems the mahr is actually a night spirit that goes to people in their sleep.

And sits on their chests.

I'd like to see a skeptic try and explain THAT one!

It would be intriguing to know if other girls have had these types of sexual "experiences" and what they might mean. 

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I Am A Sad Vagina!

I am a sad and sometimes pissed off vagina, 
most likely one of millions.

All kinds of things make me really, really sad, 
but to name a few
... 


deodorized (read: irritating) panty-liners

poorly engineered underwear

tight jeans

bladder infections

yeast infections

the fact that maybe I smell sort of bad

bad sex

cancers of my area

people who say I'm naughty, dirty, and sinful
(but mean it in a bad way)

cramps

cramps from hell

sheet-and-underwear-staining menstrual blood

interstitial cystitis and the stuff that makes it flare up

being infected in any way (there are so many ways...)

bacterial vaginosis

douche bags

overly dry conditions

overly moist conditions

unwelcome germs

bitch-ass nurses who don't really care about fixing me 

funky discharge

funky spunk

pap smears

cervical biopsies (though at times necessary, they hurt)

penises of various disappointing varieties

queefs

STDs

bad handjobs

bad lickjobs

bad condoms

bad vibrators

obnoxious pubic hair (i.e., overly long, sticky, matted, unclean, etc.)

crabs

vaginal flatus

hymen-breaking

child-bearing

aging/drying up/sagging to the ground/wrinkling like a prune

people who are mean to me

people who assume I'm easy to please

general itchiness, rawness,
and lack of moisture balance

not "getting any" due to complications caused by getting some
and/or an overall lack of satisfying and/or sufficient physical stimulation

and the billions of women attached to me whenever they get sad themselves



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I Hate Sex-I Am Sexophrenia

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I am 25 years old and have suffered from schizophrenia for several years. I find the mental illness has affected my sexuality in more ways than one. Like many with schizophrenia I find it very hard to desire or feel emotion towards those around me. Truth be told, I feel little towards those I share my life with. Coworkers. Friends. Family. Anyone. True emotion is simply NOT much a part of my nature. It is a very difficult and hard thing for me. And sad as well.

I have never had a romantic or sexual relationship because of this lack of feeling towards others. A part of me wants sex, but I feel so removed from human intimacy that I shy away from contact with the outside world. I would rather be alone in my "dream world" than out in the real one. I spend most of my time alone in my room. Human contact is simply too mentally unpleasant for me.

As far as sexuality goes, it is very hard for me to tell the difference between what is me and what is the illness at work. I can "imagine anything" because schizophrenia can bend and twist the human imagination into the worst things imaginable. I cannot even go to places that have children because the sight of them brings to mind, for me, the horrors of pedophilia. I become sick and horrified. To the point of making myself ill. This even happens all through out the day for no apparent reason or when ever imagine anything sexual.

From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep I go through a sexual hell few will ever know or understand.

People take for granted their own minds. Their ability to feel love for those around them. To smile at another person and actually mean it. To have a sexual thought and know it is THEM and not some horrible disease.

Some of us are not so fortunate.





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Women fall into 'trance' during orgasm

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The first brain scans of men and women having sex and reaching orgasm have revealed striking differences in the way each experiences sexual pleasure. While male brains focus heavily on the physical stimulation involved in sexual contact, this is just one part of a much more complex picture for women, scientists in the Netherlands have found.

The key to female arousal seems rather to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety, with direct sensory input from the genitals playing a less critical role.

The scans show that during sexual activity, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax and reduce in activity. This reaches a peak at orgasm, when the female brain’s emotion centres are effectively closed down to produce an almost trance-like state.

The male brain was harder to study during orgasm, because of its shorter duration in men, but the scans nonetheless revealed important differences. Emotion centres were deactivated, though apparently less intensely than in women, and men also appear to concentrate more on the sensations transmitted from the genitals to the brain.


This suggests that for men, the physical aspects of sex play a much more significant part in arousal than they do for women, for whom ambience, mood and relaxation are at least as important.

"Men find it more important to be stimulated on the penis than women find it to be stimulated on the clitoris," Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen told the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology conference in Copenhagen today. "We know from these images that each sex experiences stimulation differently."

The experiments also revealed a rather surprising effect: both men and women found it easier to have an orgasm when they kept their socks on. Draughts in the scanning room left couples complaining of "literally cold feet", and providing a pair of socks allowed 80 per cent rather than 50 per cent to reach a climax while their brains were scanned.
woman-orgasm

The first brain scans of men and women having sex and reaching orgasm have revealed striking differences in the way each experiences sexual pleasure. While male brains focus heavily on the physical stimulation involved in sexual contact, this is just one part of a much more complex picture for women, scientists in the Netherlands have found.

The key to female arousal seems rather to be deep relaxation and a lack of anxiety, with direct sensory input from the genitals playing a less critical role.

The scans show that during sexual activity, the parts of the female brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion start to relax and reduce in activity. This reaches a peak at orgasm, when the female brain’s emotion centres are effectively closed down to produce an almost trance-like state.

The male brain was harder to study during orgasm, because of its shorter duration in men, but the scans nonetheless revealed important differences. Emotion centres were deactivated, though apparently less intensely than in women, and men also appear to concentrate more on the sensations transmitted from the genitals to the brain.

This suggests that for men, the physical aspects of sex play a much more significant part in arousal than they do for women, for whom ambience, mood and relaxation are at least as important.

"Men find it more important to be stimulated on the penis than women find it to be stimulated on the clitoris," Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen told the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology conference in Copenhagen today. "We know from these images that each sex experiences stimulation differently."

The experiments also revealed a rather surprising effect: both men and women found it easier to have an orgasm when they kept their socks on. Draughts in the scanning room left couples complaining of "literally cold feet", and providing a pair of socks allowed 80 per cent rather than 50 per cent to reach a climax while their brains were scanned.

The scans also show that while women may be able to fool their partners with a fake orgasm, the difference is obvious in the brain. Parts of the brain that handle conscious movement light up during fake orgasms but not during real ones, while emotion centres close down during the real thing but never when a woman is pretending.

In the study, a team at the University of Groningen led by Gert Holstege scanned the brains of 13 women and 11 men using a technique called positron emission tomography (PET), while they manually stimulated to orgasm by their partners. All were heterosexual and right-handed, the latter to ensure that all their brains could be easily compared.

The subjects’ heads were restrained in the PET scanner during the procedure, as it only works if the body area being scanned remains still. The dimensions of the scanner and the need for stillness also explain why the researchers were unable to study intercourse itself.

In both sexes, activity in the amygdala, which processes fear and anxiety, was reduced during stimulation. Women, but not men, showed lower activity in the hippocampus, important for memory, as well.

In men, greater activity was seen in the insula, which deals with emotion, and particularly in the secondary somatosensory cortex, which rates the significance of physical sensations. This suggests that the sensory input coming from the genitals is being judged highly important and pleasurable by the brain.

Women, however, show very little increased brain activity, and only in the primary somatosensory cortex - which registers purely that a sensation in the genitals is there."In women the primary feeling is there, but not the marker that this is seen as a big deal," Dr Holstege said."For males, touch itself is all-important. For females, it is not so important."

As orgasm lasts much longer in women than in men, it is easier to study using PET - male ejaculation is over so quickly it is hard to get a reliable reading. The scans showed that in the female orgasm, activity is reduced across all the brain regions - conscious and subconscious - that handle emotion, including the amygdale, medial prefrontal cortex and orbitofrontal cortex.

"What this means is that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm," Dr Holstege said.






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Woman has 200 orgasms a day And Enjoys It!

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Sarah, 24, suffers from Permanent Sexual Arousal Syndrome
By Matthew Acton

PRETTY Sarah Carmen is a 200-a-day orgasm girl who gets good, good, GOOD vibrations from almost anything.

The rumble of a train on the tracks, the purr of a hairdryer, the rhythmic drone of a photo-copier are all enough to make her go oh oh oh, ahhhhh.

She had FIVE orgasms during our 40-minute interview. But I can't take the credit—it was just talking about her sex life that set her off.

Sarah, 24, suffers from Permanent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PSAS), which increases blood flow to the sex organs.

She said: "Sometimes I have so much sex to try to calm myself down I get bored of it. And men I sleep with don't seem to make as much effort because I climax so easily."

As she chatted, Sarah became increasingly flustered.

"Sorry, you'll have to excuse me for a minute. I'll be with you in a sec," she mumbled before letting out a long sigh.

Sarah, from London, developed PSAS after being prescribed anti-depressants at 19.

Stunned

She believes her condition was brought on by the pills.

She said: "Within a few weeks I just began to get more and more aroused more and more of the time and I just kept having endless orgasms.

"It started off in bed where sex sessions would last for hours and my boyfriend would be stunned at how many times I would orgasm.

"Then it would happen after sex. I'd be thinking about what we'd done in bed and I'd start feeling a bit flushed, then I'd become aroused and climax.

"In six months I was having 150 orgasms a day—and it has been as many as 200."

She and her boyfriend split— and new partners struggle to keep up with her sex demands. "Often, I'll want to wear myself out by having as many orgasms as I can so they stop and I can get some peace," she said.

Sarah is a beautician and working in salons filled with whirring hairdryers and skincare gadgets can cause problems.

"If I start coughing and run to the loo, the girls know to fetch the client a magazine or a cup of tea," she said, adding, "Sometimes I'd like to just have a normal life."

Sarah says the Permanent Sexual Arousal Syndrome that she suffers from can cause her to have orgasm at any time of day.

She explained: "Anything can set me off. Even the hairdryers cause funny pulsations through my body.

"As a skin care specialist I have to use tools which vibrate a lot of the time for micro-dermabrasion and they sometimes set me off.

"I find if I'm nervous I'm less likely to get over-excited. So sometimes I try to psyche myself up and worry to control my orgasms.

"Some of my regular customers know my problem. But with new clients it's hard to explain.

"I have been in the middle of a treatment and it's happened and I've had to carry on.

"I was doing a bikini wax and you have to really concentrate and keep your hands very still, and mine go a bit wobbly when I orgasm.

"I had to pretend I had cramp in my foot and just stood there wriggling around on the spot and stifling my moans until it was over."

Sarah's friends think she is the luckiest girl ever, although her family think her behaviour is sometimes slightly odd.

She said: "The best way to describe how I am when I am with my family and I have one of my 'moments' is that I behave like Sheila from Shameless.

"I just get a bid giddy and yelp out and try to control myself. I've never sat down and explained it to my mum and dad.

"They just think I get a bit hyperactive round them.

"My friends think it's great. I have more orgasms in one day than most of them will probably have in a year.

"They say to me that they feel lucky if their boyfriend makes them have one orgasm-some days I have one every ten minutes."

It has proved to be a problem for Sarah in some relationships.

She said: "I dated one guy who was very selfish and he was that way in the bedroom too. He'd just lie back and expect me to please him.

"He just figured that because I could climax without him even having to touch me, he didn't need to do anything to please me.

"I just thought that was rude and inconsiderate. It didn't last very long with him."

Noisy

She has also had embarrassing moments in public. Going to noisy bars and clubs is out of the question as the vibrations send her wild.

"We have to find nice quiet bars," she explained. "I have more orgasms if I have a drink as it relaxes me so I tend to drink very little now.

"It can be a bit embarrassing if I'm tipsy and guys who don't know me talk to me, because I find it harder to hide.

"The most embarrassing thing that has happened was when I answered a market research questionnaire and had an orgasm in front of the researcher.

"She knew what was happening and looked at me like I was a weirdo. I tried to explain that I couldn't help it, but I was blushing so much I had to walk away."

Sarah has even been to a Sex Addicts' Anonymous meeting in despair over her sex drive.

She said: "At first when the problem started I just wanted to have sex all the time, I thought I was a sex addict.

"But when I looked around the room and heard the stories other people told, about how desperate they were for sex, I realised I wasn't like them.

Problem

"With me, it was a means of releasing my orgasm, but now I know I don't have to have sex to do that."

Sarah has looked into the condition and believes it may have been triggered by her taking anti-depressants.

She said: "I've found studies that say that taking anti-depressants and then stopping has an effect on the sexual organs. That is the only thing that explains what happens to me.

"But I've heard of other girls who have the same problem and it just appears out of the blue. I've spoken to my doctor about it but she wasn't a great deal of help but that's mainly because there's very little known about it and no one yet knows how to cure it."

Thanks to her understanding friends and colleagues, Sarah feels like she can now live with PSAS.

She said: "I'm lucky because people around me are very kind and appreciate that sometimes this is a problem for me and it can be embarrassing.

"I need to concentrate on something sad or worrying when I talk to people and I don't want to get carried away."

During our 40-minute interview, Sarah told us she had five orgasms.

Years of dealing with the problem means that sometimes she can hide it quite well.

Her voice goes high pitched and she will lose her train of thought and have to stop talking completely for a few seconds. She says disguises this by coughing when she is in awkward situations.

"But it's also nice to have so much excitement every day! It's strange because it came from nowhere and I guess it could go away just as quickly, so I'm making the most of it while it lasts!"


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